Have you ever been made to feel so incompetent that you begin to lose faith in yourself? And if you’re not a google bot, and human, then I’m sure you have. Recently, I’ve been having a bit if a tough time dealing with feelings of incompetency from others. It’s really not all that nice. So here’s how I’ve decided to deal with it.
Refrain from talking out of anger
Now, if you know me personally, you know this is something I struggle with on the daily. I’m not exactly what you’d call a “hot head”, but I do let my mouth run away with me when moments of anger hit. And trust me, there have been a few. None of those times have ever helped me to conquer the situation I found myself in. So this time, I’m trying really hard to rather scroll through videos of adorable puppies, than attack a bitch. If you’re angry right now, you’ll find one here. (You’re welcome.) This time around, I don’t want my mouth to get me into more of a sticky situation, like its done so many times in the past.
I’m sure I’m not the only one who, while scrolling through Facebook, sits and feels the nagging voice of subconscious reason bellow in the back of my head about how many things I need to do and stop procrastinating. You know what’s a good remedy for anger? Getting those things done. You’ll feel accomplished, proud and distracted from those creeping feelings of incompetency which we spoke of earlier.
Avoid toxic rants
It’s all good and well to talk about your issues, but please. For the love of all that is mac and cheese, do not go off on a tangent with others who will fuel your fire. I used to be big on the whole “talk about it” thing, and what I found was, instead of feeling better, I had these people egg me on to the point where I felt more irritated and even more ready to throw some grenades than I was to begin with. Choose your talking-to buddies wisely. We all need that someone who will tell us we’re being an idiot.
Find a reason to laugh
It’s true, laughing really is the best medicine. Apart from watching fluffies, talking to a friend, getting shit done, you really need to focus your energy on something positive. Once you’ve laughed about something, and really belly-laughed to the point where you’re snorting, you’ll feel a lot… lighter.
Face it and handle it
You cannot allow anyone to make you feel less than you are. Only you have the power to allow that to happen. This is a mantra I have been repeating to myself consistently over the last few weeks. Once you’ve simmered down, you’ll be able to face your issue and handle it. Don’t allow people to get you to a point that proves their point. Believe in yourself, handle your problems and face it.
Go be the strong bitches you know you are. x